When the first of October rolls around, I start dreading the talk that I know is coming with my daughter’s teacher at school. I know I’m going to look like a weirdo, and I have to prepare myself for questions I’ve gotten time and again, but I feel I must do it.
The talk is about Halloween. See, I don’t celebrate Halloween in any way and I don’t want my kids participating in books and activities that deal with ghosts and witches.
I know, it goes against the grain of society, and would be much easier if I would try to fit in, but I just can’t do it. You may have already guessed that I am a follower of Christ. I don’t condemn or think that non-Christians and even other Christians are wrong to participate in Halloween, it’s just that I have felt a personal conviction not to.
I know many Christians that use Halloween as an opportunity to hand out Bible tracks with treats, and that’s great. For me it’s that the Bible says to have nothing to do with witches, mediums, sorcerers, and the like (read Deuteronomy.) I personally feel like celebrating Halloween is going against that particular biblical teaching. You may not agree and that’s okay.
I think we should all celebrate holidays in ways we see fit for our families.
That brings me to my next point. Halloween isn’t the only holiday we do differently in our family, Christmas is another one – and the beginning of December brings another teacher talk…yikes!
We’re not necessarily anti-Santa. He’s fine as a symbol of the season and a fun make-believe character. We have lots of Christmas movies about Santa, but we don’t “do” Santa. I have to ask my daughter’s teacher not to talk to her as though Santa is real.
It’s okay to color a picture of Santa or talk about him in the make-believe sense, but I do not want my child asked what Santa is bringing her for Christmas. Doesn’t that make it harder? Yes, it does.
It’s no easy feat teaching my kids how to not spill the beans to other children, and how to grasp the understanding of why their friends and classmates believe so strongly in something my children know to be untrue.
But it doesn’t end there. No Easter bunny and no tooth fairy either.
So why do something that makes people look at us like we’re from another planet, with disapproval in their eyes as they drill us with questions when it would just be easier to go with the flow? To put it simply, those characters are a lie.
It may feel to many people that it’s not “really” lying. Yet, to me it is. If it’s not true, then it is a lie. It’s a basic commandment of the original ten. Don’t lie. That doesn’t mean I’ve never fallen into lying or that I’m perfect, it means I don’t plan to lie.
Participating in holiday characters and the tooth fairy is, in my eyes, making a plan to lie. Not only that, those holiday characters take attention away from the real meaning.
Aren’t we taking away our kids’ fun? No. They still get that Christmas twinkle in their eyes when they wake up to presents under the tree that Mom and Dad got them to celebrate the birth of our savior.
They still get wide eyed at the baskets of candy and treats that Mom and Dad give them to celebrate that Jesus is ALIVE! They also know they can trust what we tell them.
What happens many times to young kids is they are told before they are old enough to handle it that Santa isn’t real. They feel betrayed and upset. Yes, many of them get over it quickly, but I still think it does damage to the trust between them and their parents.
So, I’ll continue to be a weirdo mom, and deal with the questions and accusations (many from family members) because I believe it’s the right thing to do. The right thing is not always the easiest thing, but I’m okay with that … Are you? I’d love to hear your opinion in the comments below!